Contents

1. Lesson 21-Top
2. Kanji in Lesson 21
3. たんご (Vocabulary)
4. 会話 (Dialogues)
5. ぶんぽう (Grammar)
1. Honorific Verb Forms
2. Usage of Honorific Forms
3. Honorific Advice
4. Honorific Nouns/Adjec...
5. …てくれてありがとう
6. …てよかったです
7. …はずです
6. れんしゅう (Practice)
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Honorific Verb Forms

In this lesson, we will formally introduce honorific verbs (marked by honorific below). Honorific verbs are used to describe actions of others we respect (Someone other than the speaker does something graciously or respectfully). Being able to use the proper honorific language ( 尊敬語(そんけいご) or 敬語(けいご)) is seen as the rite of passage for young Japanese. If you, as a Japanese language student, can demonstrate honorific language skills well, you would command a great deal of respect.

(a) Special honorific forms

Among the most commonly used verbs, six verbs (いる, 行く, 来る, 言う, する, くれる) take a special honorific pattern marked by ✅ below. Note that the special pattern happens only for the polite forms (i.e., ます forms). You have seen this already in conversations introduced in Lesson 9. Their plain forms of these verbs conjugate as regular verbs.

Neutral Verbs (or Noun ) Honorific Forms honorific
  Plain Polite
いる (sp) いらっしゃる ✅いらっしゃます
行く (sp) いらっしゃる ✅いらっしゃます
来る (sp) いらっしゃる ✅いらっしゃます
言う (sp) おっしゃる ✅おっしゃます
する (sp) なさる ✅なさます
くれる (sp) くださる ✅くださます
Noun   (sp) ~でいらっしゃる ✅~でいらっしゃます
食べる () めしあがる めしあがります
飲む
あげる Standard honorific pattern (おあげになる) is grammatical but not used.
もらう Standard honorific pattern (おもらいになる) is grammatical but not used.
知っている (n) ごぞんじだ ごぞんじです
知らない (n) ごぞんじじゃない ごぞんじじゃありません
Note: that ~でいらっしゃる (or ~でいらっしゃいます) works only for people. You can say 田中さんは先生でいらっしゃいます. With regard to objects, you can never say それは田中さんの車でいらっしゃいます [ungrammatical]. The correct form is to use the extra-modest pattern でございます introduced in Lesson 9: それは田中さんの (くるま)でございます. Grammaticality judgment is split among native speakers about the sentences involving animals (e.g., 田中さんの(いぬ)でいらっしゃいます).

(b) Standard honorific forms

Most honorific verbs are formed by inserting the verb stem in the standard honorific verb pattern (+ Verb-stem + になる). A small number of verbs with a short verb stem are slight exceptions to this rule as noted below. The last verb 見る does not follow this pattern and is truly exceptional.
Neutral Verbs Honorific Formshonorific
  V-Stem に なる 
まつ (to wait) まち になる
とる (to take) とり になる
書く (to write) 書き になる
帰る (to return) 帰り になる
使(つか) (to use) 使い になる
() (to meet) 会い になる
読む (to read) 読み になる
よぶ (to call/summon) よび になる
急ぐ (to hurry) 急ぎ になる
✅ 着 () (to wear) めし になる
✅ ねる (to go to bed) 休み になる
✅ 見る (to look/watch) らん になる
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Usage of Honorific Forms

Honorific verb forms are used to show respect toward the person whose action you are describing. They are typically used when talking about:

  1. someone who is higher in social status or position,
  2. someone outside your in-group toward whom respect is appropriate (e.g., a customer, client, or guest), or
  3. someone you do not know well.
Do not use honorific forms to describe your own actions.
  • あした、何時に いらっしゃいますか。 (Instead of 来ますか/行きますか) What time are you coming/going tomorrow?
  • 先生は何と おっしゃっていましたか。 (Instead of 言っていました) What was the professor saying?
  • 何か めしあがりませんか。 (Instead of 食べません/飲みません) Would you like something to eat or drink?
  • おかださんのお父さんは ゴルフを なさっているそうです。 (Instead of している) I heard that Ms. Okada's father plays golf.
  • 先生が これを くださいました (Instead of くれました) The teacher gave me this.
  • スミスさんは テレビを ごらんになっています。 (Instead of 見ています) Mr. Smith is watching TV.
  • スミスさんにお会いになったことがありますか。 (Instead of 会った) Have you ever met Mr. Smith?
  • 先生はどんな料理をお作りになりますか。(Instead of 作ります) What kind of food do you cook, Professor?
For on-going actions and resultant state expressions (Vている), two honorific forms are possible.
  1. Vている ⇒ Vていらっしゃる 何を聞いていらっしゃるんですか。 What are you listening to? 先生は本を読んでいらっしゃったそうです。 I heard that the teacher was reading a book. or
  2. Vている ⇒ お + V-stem+に なって いる 何をお聞きになっているんですか。 What are you listening to? 先生は本をお読みになっていたそうです。 I heard that the professor was reading a book.

Do not combine the two honorific patterns to describe a single action:

何をお聞きになってhonorificいらっしゃるhonorificんですか。 [inappropriate]

In business settings, the choice of honorific language depends not only on social hierarchy but also on the distinction between in-group (内/うち) and out-group (外/そと). Suppose you and Ms. Okada both work for Company A, and Division Manager Tanaka is your supervisor. When speaking with your colleague Okada, you may use honorific forms to describe your superior's actions:

  • Okada: 田中部長は何時にお帰りになりますhonorificか。       What time will Division Manager Tanaka return?
  • You:   (田中部長は)4時にお帰りになりますhonorific       He will return at four.

Now suppose you are speaking with Ms. Smith from Company B. Because Tanaka is a member of your company (your in-group), you do not elevate him with honorific language when speaking to someone from another company:

  • Smith: 田中部長は何時にお帰りになりますhonorificか。       What time will Division Manager Tanaka return?
  • You:   (田中は)4時に帰ります       He will return at four.

Notice that in the second example, you even drop Tanaka's title when referring to him. This is not disrespectful toward your boss. In Japanese business communication, using honorific expressions to elevate a member of your own company—even your superior—when speaking with someone outside the company is inappropriate. In such situations, the in-group/out-group distinction takes precedence over the hierarchy within your own group.

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Honorific Advice

The honorific pattern + V-stem + ください (“Please V”) is often used to politely encourage someone to do something for their own benefit or convenience. It functions as gentle advice or encouragement and is commonly heard in public announcements and customer-service situations.

  • 足元(あしもと)にお()をつけください。
    Please watch your step.
  • ごゆっくりお(やす)みください。
    Please get plenty of rest.

Do not confuse this use with an honorific request. If the speaker asks someone to perform an action for the speaker's benefit, the expression functions as a request rather than advice. In such cases, the honorific advice pattern cannot simply be substituted for a request expression. The key distinction is who benefits from the action:

  • Advice: the person performing the action benefits
  • Request: the speaker (or the speaker's side) benefits
Neutral Verbs Honorific Advice Formshonorific
Verb 下さい
やすむ, ねる
やすみ 下さい Please rest/go to bed.
書く 書き 下さい Please write it down.
まつ まち 下さい Please wait.
もつ もち 下さい Please take (= carry) it.
とる とり 下さい Please take it.
はいる はいり 下さい Please enter.
帰る 帰り 下さい Please go home.
つかう つかい 下さい Please use it.
会う 会い 下さい Please meet [someone]. 
読む 読み 下さい Please read it.
よぶ よび 下さい Please call/summon.
いそぐ いそぎ 下さい Please hurry.
Exceptional Honorific Formshonorific
見る らん 下さい Please look at it.
食べる, 飲む めしあがり 下さい Please help yourself.
着る めし 下さい Please wear it.

The following question forms do not work as a request because the encouraged action benefits the speaker, not the person who does the action.

  • すみませんが、そのドアをおあけ下さい [unacceptable]
      Could you please open the door (for me)?
    ⇒ Use ドアをあけて下さいませんか。
  • すみませんが、そのティッシュをおとり下さい [unacceptable]
      Could you pass me the (facial) tissue?
    ⇒ Use ティッシュをとって下さいませんか。

More examples of honorific advice follow:

  • 電車が来ます。きいろい線(せん)のうちがわにさがっておまち下さい
    The train is arriving. Please step back behind the yellow line and wait.
  • (よう)のさいは、そちらのボタンでおしらせ下さい
    If you have any request, please let us know with that button.
Some N + する verbs can form the honorific advice pattern + N + ください.
  • 安心(あんしん)ください。 Please don't worry.
  • 利用(りよう)ください。 Please feel free to use it.
  • ドアがしまります。ご注意(ちゅうい) ください。 The doors are closing. Please be careful.
  • おたばこは、ご遠慮(えんりょ)ください。 Please refrain from smoking.

Caution: This pattern normally uses ご, not お. Simply changing N + する to + N + ください generally does not work. For example, 勉強(べんきょう)ください sounds unnatural. There are, however, some established expressions with お, such as 電話(でんわ)ください (Please call).

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Honorific Nouns/Adjectives

Some nouns and adjectives can be made more polite or honorific by adding the prefix or ご. In general, is used with words of Japanese origin (often written with a single kanji), while is used with words of Chinese origin (often written with two kanji). However, there are many exceptions, so the choice of or should ultimately be learned as part of each expression. Words written in katakana rarely take an honorific prefix. Pronunciation Note: The kanji is pronounced はな in the verb 話します, but as a noun, is pronounced はなし (or ばなし in some compound words).

  お~ honorific ご~ honorific
Nouns (はなし) 住所(じゅうしょ)
(みせ) 出身(しゅっしん)
(やす) 予定(よてい)
(みず) 結婚(けっこん)
(はな) 病気(びょうい)
(くに) 旅行(りょこう)
()(もの) 注文(ちゅうもん)
名前(なまえ) 紹介(しょうかい)
仕事(しごと) 主人(しゅじん)
食事(しょくじ) 相談(そうだん)
料理(りょうり) 家族(かぞく)
客様(きゃくさま) 両親(りょうしん)
電話(でんわ) 就職(しゅうしょく)
おタバコ ご兄弟
おふろ 専攻(せんこう)
誕生日(たんじょうび) 予約(よやく)
おトイレ (uncommon)
おビール (uncommon)
-Adj. おいそがしい
おやさしい
-Adj. おひま ごていねい
お元気 ごりっぱ
おしずか 親切(しんせつ)

The use of and is largely determined by established usage. Therefore, do not freely create new honorific nouns or adjectives simply by adding or to a word you have never heard used that way. Some words are now so commonly used with or that the prefix is normally treated as part of the everyday expression rather than as a special honorific form. Examples include: おなか ("stomach") and ごはん ("meal/rice"). If the prefix is removed, the remaining form (なか or はん) does not have the intended meaning.

Some words have special honorific forms.

家 ⇒ おたく だれ ⇒ どなた/どちら
どこ ⇒ どちら どう ⇒ いかが
~さん ⇒ ~さま ~人 ⇒ ~人(さま) (for counting people)
みんな ⇒ みなさま✅ 人 ⇒ かた
✅ Note that the honorific form of みんな is みなさま. みんなさま is misspelled.
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…てくれてありがとう

When you wish to thank someone for doing something for you, use the -form of the giving verb くれる (“to do/give something for me”) in the pattern: V + くれて + ありがとう. This expression can be made more polite by changing くれて to its honorific form くださって and ありがとう to ありがとうございました.

  • わかってくれて、ありがとう。 Thank you for understanding me. (Said to a friend)
  • マフラーをまいてくれて、ありがとう。 Thank you for putting the scarf around me. (Mikasa expressing her gratitude toward Eren in the final scene in Attack on Titan.)
  • ばんごはんをおごってくださって、どうもありがとうございました。 Thank you very much for treating me to dinner. (Said to someone you are not close to or someone of higher social status)
  • すいせんじょうを書いてくださって、ありがとうございました。 Thank you for writing me a letter of recommendation.

Note 1: In this pattern, くれる/くださる is important because it expresses that the other person's action was done for the speaker's benefit. Simply saying ノートをかしてありがとう is not acceptable as a standard expression of gratitude. Say: ノートをかしてくれて、ありがとう。 When くださる is used, do not also make the preceding verb honorific. For example, avoid お書きになってくださって. Use: 書いてくださって、ありがとうございました。 Note 2: Do not combine an honorific verb form with くれる (e.g., × お書きになってくれて). Use either Vてくれる in an informal relationship or Vてくださる when showing respect.

Note 3: To thank someone for being or remaining in a certain state, ~でいてくれてありがとう can be used:

  • いつもいっしょにいてくれて、ありがとう。 Thank you for always being there for me. (Said to a friend)
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…てよかったです

To say that you are glad something happened, use: Vて + よかった (I'm glad that…). To say that you are glad something did not happen, use the negative て-form: Vなくて + よかった (I'm glad that…didn't happen.).

  • 元気になって、よかったですね。 I'm glad you got well.
  • 今日は雨がふらなくて、よかったです。 I'm glad it didn't rain today.
  • きょうかしょを読んでおいて、よかった。 I'm glad I read the textbook beforehand.

The -forms of -adjectives and -adjectives/nouns can also be followed by よかった:

  • 今日は天気がよくて、よかったですね。 I'm glad the weather is nice today.
  • 今日はお休みで、よかったですね。 I'm glad today is a day off.

Other emotional reactions with the -Form

The -form can be followed by expressions other than よかった. In these sentences, the first part presents the situation, and the second part expresses the speaker's emotional reaction or evaluation of that situation.

  • ともだちが来てくれて、うれしかったです。 (…て + positive reaction) I was happy that my friend came over.
  • ペットがしんで、かなしかったです。 (…て + negative reaction) I was sad that my pet died.
  • かんじがむずかしくて、こまっています。 (…て + problem) I'm having trouble because kanji is difficult.
  • おそくなって、ごめんね。 (…て + apology) Sorry I'm late.
  • 田中さんが来なくて、残念(ざんねん)です。(…て + regret) I'm sorry that Tanaka didn't come.
  • おまえの寿命(じゅみょう)がのびて残念(ざんねん)だよ、ライナー… I'm sorry your lifespan was extended, Reiner... (said by Jean in Attack on Titan)
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…はずです

The sentence ending ~はずです expresses a strong expectation or belief that something should be / is expected to be true. The speaker reaches this conclusion based on known circumstances, information, or common-sense expectations.

  • 東京まで13時間かかるから、スミスさんはまだ日本に()いていないはずです
    It takes 13 hours to get to Tokyo, so Smith shouldn't have arrived in Japan yet.

The speaker does not know Smith's current location directly but reaches this conclusion based on the known travel time.

Formation

The sentence before はず is generally in the plain form. Note the special forms used with non-past affirmative nouns and -adjectives.
Plain-form S はずです  
  • 北海道の冬は寒い
  • おきなわの冬は寒くない
  • 北海道の冬は寒かった
  • おきなわの冬は寒くなかった
curly bracket はずです。  Winter in Hokkaido should be cold.
 Winter in Okinawa shouldn't be cold.
 Winter in Hokkaido should have been cold.
 Winter in Okinawa shouldn't have been cold.
  • 学校は8時にあく
  • 学校は8時まであかない
  • 学校は8時にあいた
  • 学校は8時まであかなかった
curly bracket はずです。  Schools should open at 8.
 Schools should open until 8.
 Schools should have opened at 8.
 Schools shouldn't have opened until 8.
  • 田中さんは病気
  • 田中さんは病気じゃない
  • 田中さんは病気だった
  • 田中さんは病気じゃなかった
curly bracket はずです。  Tanaka should be sick.
 Tanaka shouldn't be sick.
 Tanaka should have been sick.
 Tanaka shouldn't have been sick.
  • 図書館はしずか
  • りょうはしずかじゃない
  • 図書館はしずかだった
  • りょうはしずかじゃなかった
curly bracket はずです  The library should be quiet.
 The dorm shoundn't be quiet.
 The library should have been quiet.
 The dorm shouldn't have been quiet.

Negation normally occurs before はず: …ないはずです (…should not / is not expected to…). A stronger denial can be expressed with: …はずはない (There is no way that… / It cannot possibly be that…).

  • 田中さんがそんなことをするはずはありません。
    There is no way Tanaka would do such a thing.

はずです vs. でしょう

Because はずです expresses a relatively strong expectation based on some reason or evidence, it is not normally combined with でしょう, which adds uncertainty.

  • 東京まで13時間かかるから、スミスさんはまだ日本に着いていないはずです。 It takes 13 hours to Tokyo, so Smith shouldn't have arrived in Japan yet.
  • ❓東京まで13時間かかるから、スミスさんはまだ日本に着いていないはずでしょうIt takes 13 hours to Tokyo, so Smith shouldn't have arrived in Japan...maybe?

はずです Is Not an Expression of Obligation

Be careful with the English expression “be supposed to.” In English, “be supposed to” can describe either an expectation or a rule/obligation. Japanese はずです expresses the former, but normally not the latter. For example:

日本では家の中でくつをぬぐはずです。 Intended: You are supposed to take off your shoes inside a house in Japan.

If you mean that this is a rule or expectation of behavior, use an obligation expression:

日本では家の中でくつをぬがなくてはいけません。 You have to take off your shoes inside a house in Japan.
Likewise:
クラスでたばこをすわないはずです。 Intended: You are not supposed to smoke in class.

Use a prohibition instead:

クラスでたばこをすってはいけません。 You must not smoke in class.

~たはずです vs. ~るはずでした

Pay particular attention to the difference between past tense before はず and past tense after はず.
田中さんはきのうそのミーティングに出たはずです。 Tanaka should have attended the meeting yesterday.I believe he attended it.

Here, 出た describes the expected past event. The speaker believes that the event actually occurred. Compare:

田中さんはきのうそのミーティングに出るはずでした。 Tanaka was supposed to attend the meeting yesterday.He was expected/scheduled to attend.

Here, はずでした describes a past expectation or plan. It does not by itself mean that Tanaka actually attended. In context, it often implies that the expectation was not fulfilled. Thus:

  • Vた + はずです → I believe V actually happened.
  • Vる + はずでした → V was expected/supposed to happen (but may not have happened).
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